Stop and Start behaviors

There are two kinds of behaviors. “STOP” behaviors: when your child is doing something wrong, and “START” behaviors: when your child isn’t doing what you want him or her to do.

Setting family standards

Teach your child what your family principles are – say “we say thank you in our family” or “we don’t swear in our family” and then make sure that is the case.

Enforcing predictable routines

Families function at their best when there are predictable routines in their day to day lives.

Be the boss

Be the boss and don’t be ashamed of being the boss in your relationship with your child. If you are not the boss, they will step into the power vacuum and this may have long term negative consequences.

Limiting TV time

As much as you treasure the quiet that comes with a Disney DVD, try to limit your child’s TV time to no more than two hours a day.

Structure and routine

Children thrive on structure, routine, and ritual. When their world has a consistent rhythm, they feel secure in the predictability.

Recharging the parental battery

Being a parent of a toddler takes lots of time and energy. Make sure you have some time for yourself to do something you enjoy to recharge your batteries regularly.

Positive attention and kids

Positive attention tops the list of parenting tips for toddlers. Make sure your displays of affection for your child outnumber any consequences or punishments.

Rules and children

Rather than overloading your child with rules, prioritize rules geared toward safety.

Taking an active roll at school

Teachers can encourage parents to take an active role in the classroom by requesting volunteers for holiday parties, field trips, or book readings.

Talk directly to your toddler

Talk directly to your toddler. Look at them while you talk. Spend time talking to them; ask them questions even if they don’t have a very big vocabulary.

Sneaking babies into restaurants

When going to a restaurant don’t try to sneak your baby in. Introduce your baby to the host/hostess to make you meal go smoothly.

Take a break

After your toddler starts to play on his/her own, keep a magazine nearby and sneak a peek at a page while she is stacking blocks. She’ll let you know when she needs some more attention.

Your enthusiasm is crucial

Your child can sense your mood. If you are not interested in a toy or activity, then he’ll think that it isn’t interesting or fun either.

Choosing paint in a bedroom

When decorating a toddler’s bedroom choose a paint that can be easily cleaned with soap and water to reduce re-painting.

Thank you notes are a must

Thank you notes are important social skill builders. Children can enjoy writing thank you cards when they are fun colors and themes.

time-outs as punishment

Time out is one of the most common toddler discipline method. Keep the time brief around one minute per year of age.

Instilling values, reasoning, and incentives

It is important for parents to be consistent both in modeling behavior and in addressing appropriate versus inappropriate behavior in the child

Monkey-see, Monkey-do

Using profanity, hitting, or other disrespectful behavior may be a direct result of ‘monkey-see, monkey-do’. Kids are looking and listening to everything we do.

Communication with your kids

Talk to your toddler/child about what they and you are doing. Keeping up a steady stream of narration helps support their language development.