Appropriate choices for preschoolers

When parents offer appropriate choices to preschoolers, many power struggles can be avoided.

Don’t try reasoning with a tot

Once that flail or wail or exorcism begins, forget trying to reason with your child to reduce those tantrums. Doing so is like trying to reason with a goldfish. Remember that when those strong emotions kick in the “reasoning” part of their brain tunes out. Just let him wind down.


Ignoring a tantrum isn’t always possible. If it happens in a public place, try to remove your child from the scene. If you can, take her outside to the car and let her scream it out there.

Child and their limits

Know your child’s limits. Your child may misbehave because he or she doesn’t understand or can’t do what you’re asking.

Play with your toddler

Take the time to play and talk with your toddler frequently – the first step to avoiding tantrums is setting up good communication with your child.

Avoiding tantrums

Take the time to play and talk with your toddler frequently – the first step to avoiding tantrums is setting up good communication with your child.

Curb treats for good behavior

Curb the tendency of rewarding your toddler with a treat whenever he/she does well, as this will make him/her develop an unhealthy emotional relationship with food.

Anxiety and normal development

Anxiety is a normal part of children’s development. Almost all children feel shy or fearful around strangers. But about one in 10 children experience anxiety more intensely and more often than other children.

Give your child a break

Give your child a break. He’s not going to behave perfectly all the time. Don’t nag at every little thing. Concentrate on the big stuff (the toddler behavior you find unacceptable) and get that right.


Toddlers do best when they know what to expect, whether it’s what time they bathe or go to bed or what consequences they’ll face for misbehaving.

Stop and Start behaviors

There are two kinds of behaviors. “STOP” behaviors: when your child is doing something wrong, and “START” behaviors: when your child isn’t doing what you want him or her to do.

anxiety in kids

Although quite common, Anxiety Disorders in children often are overlooked or misjudged, despite them being very treatable conditions with good, persistent medical care.

Learining to say ‘no’

Learn to say “no” in a firm, peaceful way that carries authority but not anger. This parenting skill will help you to cut short years of power struggles.

Positive works better than negative

Studies show that toddler discipline using positive reinforcement works far better than punishment.

Toddlers don’t keep grudges

Toddlers live in a short time frame. The upside of this is that toddlers don’t bear grudges. The downside is that they won’t remember that they were “out-of-control” earlier when Dad comes home.

When tantrums occur

Children are more likely to have tantrums when they are bored, tired, hungry, unwell or overwhelmed by events.

Structure and routine

Children thrive on structure, routine, and ritual. When their world has a consistent rhythm, they feel secure in the predictability.

Keeping temper tantrums under control

Temper tantrums are usually dramatic, intense and full of emotion. With a little practice and persistence, parents can learn how to stop the drama of a temper tantrum and change the situation to a calm, quiet discussion.

Treat your child with respect.

When your child is trying to express emotions, take the time to try to understand.

Avoiding tantrums

We’ve all heard of “The Terrible Twos” but in many children tantrums begin far before the first birthday, sometimes as early as nine months.