About temper tantrums

Temper tantrums range from whining and crying to screaming, kicking, hitting, and breath holding. They’re equally common in boys and girls and usually occur from age 1 to age 3. Kids’ temperaments vary dramatically – so some kids may experience regular tantrums, whereas others have them rarely.

From kidshealth.org.

Basic causes of tantrums

Several basic causes of tantrums are familiar to parents everywhere: The child is seeking attention or is tired, hungry, or uncomfortable.

In addition, tantrums are often the result of kids’ frustration with the world

From kidshealth.org.

Don’t force toddlers to share

Don’t force toddlers to share; it actually delays development of sharing skills. Kids need to feel secure in ownership before they can share

Dealing with Tantrums

Tantrums are common during the second year of life, a time when children generally understand more than they can express.

Avoiding conflict with kids

Keep off-limits objects out of sight and out of reach to make struggles less likely to develop.

Playdate toy tip

Before friends come over, toddlers should have a chance to put away their most special toys if they don’t want anyone else to play with them

Is your child being bullied?

Tell your child not to feel responsible for a bullies behavior & it isn’t their fault. There is no excuse for harmful treatment.

Acknowledging feelings

Underneath anger is always hurt or fear.Acknowledging feelings is more effective to diffuse anger than labeling it, which just reinforces it

Toddlers and play date

A play date once or twice a week means your toddler will have something to look forward to, but if you arrange play dates too often, then they may become too much like hard work. It’s hard for toddlers to learn to share and play harmoniously with their peers, and requiring them to be on their best behaviour every day isn’t really very fair.

Bullies

Is your child being bullied? Reassure your child there is no weakness in leaving the situation, to keep away from the bully.

Let your toddler try to do it themselves.

Rein in your own impatience. That doesn’t mean abandoning him to it. Stand by, smiling, ready to be helpful in whatever way actually helps your toddler.

Bullying bullies

When bullies are scolded, labeled, and punished, it proves to them that they really are mean people and deserve to suffer. Discouraged and angry, they get revenge on their favorite victim for getting them in trouble. Nonviolent alternatives give them a way out.

Start laughing and be silly.

It’s okay to be silly with your child. Just because you are the adult doesn’t mean that you can’t have fun too! After you start the sillies, you won’t have to think of what to do next, the fun will follow.

Your Child’s Self-Esteem

Children who like themselves make friends easily, tend to be leaders rather than followers, understand that mistakes are a tool for learning, are willing to take risks and generally see the bright side of life.

When in doubt, empathize

Your empathy and acceptance helps your child accept her emotions.

Positive Discipline

Positive Discipline starts by having a good relationship with your child.

Learning patience

Help your child learn patience by letting others go first or by finishing a task before going out to play. Encourage him to think about possible consequences before acting.

Learning to behave with others

How you treat your child is how she will learn to treat herself. If you’re harsh with her, she’ll be harsh with herself.

Get to the Core of Your Toddler’s Anger

If your toddler bites in anger, ask yourself what might be causing this change of mood in your toddler. Have there been any changes in your toddler’s life lately? Is your toddler reacting in anger?

If your toddler hasn’t been socialized with his children his age, this could be another cause of anger.

The power of “No”

Learn to say “no” in a firm, peaceful way that carries authority but not anger. This parenting skill will help you to cut short years of power struggles.